In the News: Groom Sets Fire to Hotel
Knowing that I have some commitment issues, when I first read the headline of this story I really felt some compassion for the poor guy. This happened back in October, however, I felt it was good enough to share it with you.
According to the Yomiuiri newspaper, a Japanese man set a fire in the early morning at the resort hotel in Yamanashi Prefecture, just west of Tokyo, where he was due to get married to his fiancee before 80 guests. The 39 year old man had gone along with wedding plans even though he already had a wife. I guess he decided setting a fire would be easier than coming clean. According to the paper, guests at the hotel were evacuated and no one was injured. Although I’d bet his fiancee might now be suffering from some serious commitment issues.
Although this man was already married, which caused a slight twist in my original compassion, I decided to dig a bit further into the reasons people are afraid of marriage. A little self-help if you may. I came across this very informative site: The National Marriage Project. It really is a great read, with topics ranging from cohabitation, divorce, marriage, and child well being. I’ll let you form your own conclusions…
According to an article at askmen.com, men are afraid of marriage (aka commitment) for the following reasons:
- No More Freedom
- Loss of Space
- One Sex Partner, Forever
- They’ve Been Burned Before
- The Emotional Baggage
- Lack of Compromise
- Loss of Free Time
- Not Ready for It
- Can’t Trust a Woman
- She Applies Pressure
Now, what happens when a woman completely agrees with the above and feels the exact same way? Because let me tell you, I’m hearing this list from my singleton gf’s over and over again. So if this is the case, wouldn’t you both agree to have the perfect partnership, the best of both worlds? Or will those afraid of the C word and all it signifies continue to make the list of most eligible bachelors and bachelorettes?
If you’re still into monogamy for life and you think your man might be dragging his feet to the altar, here are a few good reads:
Closing the Deal: Two Married Guys Take You from Single Miss to Wedded Bliss
Authors:Daniel Rosenberg and Richard Kirshenbaum
He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Authors: Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo
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10:04 am on November 14th, 2008 1
I dunno, if your partner is doing any of those top 10 list of reasons, then you and they need to work out those issues. A happy relationship shouldn’t even have you thinking of those things!